A 14 year-old boy was recently raped at knife-point by a 20 year-old woman. When the story broke, it was primarily men who claimed he should have enjoyed it. It was feminists who validated his pain and spoke in support of him.
My advice for anyone who is going through ANYTHING, no matter how big or small by some other human’s terms, is TALK. Talk to someone. Let it out. Don’t bottle it up. Talking may not make you feel better for a long time but at least you put it out there, making it impossible for it to eat you up inside. And not talking doesn’t constitute “oh that’s just how they are” because not talking is not human. We are meant to communicate. We are meant to comfort one another.